Arriving early

This is a very common problem these days so don’t panic. The fact is that most men’s early experiences of sex are dominated by the good old 5 knuckle shuffle or quickie, so asking your bits to tool up for a long luxurious lay is like asking a guy that has trained to be a sprint champion to run the marathon.



According to the men in white coats the average guy makes approximately 50 thrusts before ejaculation but the average woman needs 10 minutes or more to cum. What was God thinking! Of course to make matters much worse many of us look to porn stars as some kind of benchmark which is altogether entirely unhelpful. So what to do?



Fixing this is easy. But just like losing weight, learning Portuguese or gaining muscle, it simply takes willpower and a little time and effort.



1- Become aware of your arousal levels – Start to notice the tipping point. When is it? How does your body behave?



2- Breathing – Breath is vital. Use it to calm rather than excite you. Slow controlled breathing way down in your belly.



3- Shift the energy – Passion is an energy. The old story of thinking about baseball or your Mother’s senile Aunt Hilda work - simply because they change the ‘energy vibration’ throughout your body. A more effective and romantic way to do this is as follows:-




On the out breath visualise the tingling energy in your groin coming up through your body and out into the room. Or channel it into your kisses. This is a very ancient tantric technique and works WONDERS since it transfers all the ejaculation energy out of your penis and into your partner where you want it anyway.



4- Pull your nuts – just before orgasm your testes rise into your body so give them a gentle but firm tug every so often when you feel things getting warmer.



5- Mix it up – Simply stop! Pull out and go down on her or kiss her passionately until you feel the pressure subside then go again. Repeat until your body has learnt full control.



6- Don’t stress – It only makes it worse. Tell your partner you want her to help you work on it and have fun with the new techniques.