Learning to read

Vibes are an important part of our survival mechanism. We have used them for millions of years so why stop now! They work on subtle, sometimes invisible cues that are sent to our subconscious to tell us something important. Trouble is we tend to ignore them when they don’t tell us what we want to hear.



Truth is in the early part of a relationship the chemicals in your body should make it almost impossible to give out the ‘wrong vibe’ unless that is what is meant.



So the first thing you need to do is:-



1- Fully accept this relationship might not be what you think. This will allow you to read the subtle signals more clearly.



2- Look at how he behaves to others. It’s true that some guys are just not good at expressing themselves. So notice how he behaves about other things he loves like his car, sport or friends. Does he give out the same vibe or is it just you?



3- Ask no questions, get no lies. It’s improbable he will give you a straight answer even if you ask so why bother asking. Simply withdraw yourself from him for a period of time (without drama). Make some excuse – go away, stay at work, wash your hair, take up a hobby. You’ll find out soon enough if you are on his mind.



4- Expect nothing, get everything. It’s easy to get caught up expecting things to be the way you imagine they should be. They seldom are, so rather than beating yourself up with this ‘is he/ isn’t he’ dilemma, simply give the relationship the chance it deserves by stepping back and enjoying the ride. If after some time you still feel the same, listen to your intuition and move on. He’ll come for you if he truly means it!