Opposites attract... or do they?

Haha yeah I hear this a lot. Opposites attract until they don’t! Recent Scientific studies suggest that whilst it can be intriguing or sexy to have someone who expresses the opposite ‘attitude’ to you, in a way living vicariously and experiencing what you may be afraid of in yourself - through them, it all comes crashing down over time when ‘personality’ starts to dominate and the ‘quirky or cool’ becomes irritating or impractical, as you put it.



So what to do:- the truth is the balance in any relationship can only ever come from you. The moment you ‘expect’ someone to do something that fulfils your ‘values’ you are asking them to compromise their own. So be the best person you can be in the relationship. Remind yourself of the benefits rather than frustrations of the quirks they have, and consider that they are also having to ‘put up’ with your differences from their side of the coin.



All of us want to be accepted for WHO WE ARE and will fight against those who force us to be ‘who they want us to be’. So don’t make the mistake of looking at them as the problem. Your frustration is a reflection of who you are, not who they are. Focus on improving that and watch how love, if it is truly there, naturally draws them to meet you in the middle without you even asking.