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Posted by:
anzacbub
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Date:
Apr 01, 2007
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It’s not that women like bad boys, they are getting sick of wusses.
Yes, there is a thing called common courtesy, and that is what everyone uses, even the women, to show manners. Most of us have manners don’t we?
But too many guys are too focused on impressing women, which in turn, actually pushes women and takes away the attraction.
I still don’t have a girlfriend, and never have had one, mainly because i’ve got other things to focus on in life, and I don’t get out enough.
But I have noticed that being both cocky and funny around women works a hell of alot better than only being cocky, funny or nice.
Being NICE all the time comes across as being insecure, not wanting to do something a little daring, and it’s predictable...do we like predictable movies? NO! Do we like anything that is predictable? NO, because it’s boring, it’s not interesting, and there is no mystery, and I find that women love mystery...why do you think most women watch thrillers and movies that generally have a plot that gets twisted in all directions before the end?
Also, think about how many gorgeous women have guys sucking up to them all the time, buying them drinks, treating them like godesses...I find that the more attractive women tend to push these guys away.
I was out one night and saw one of those 10’s, she thought she was all that, but I knew that she was sick of the same old guys approaching her, because I saw I think 5 or 6 guys (one of them) approach her, and she moved away...what was funny is that it was only after they bought her a drink she buggered off out of there.
I was bored with my mates, so I decided I would "try something" I made this a game with my mates, I said that I was going to try something with this 10, and see how she reacted, however, I wasnt going to leave with her that night (I don’t like the thought of a one night stand), so I approached her, but I didn’t really approach HER, I just went and sat by the bar with her. I sat close, ordered my drink, and made sure our shoulders were touching, so that she would react after a while.
So as I was waiting for my drink, she said to me in this kindof half hearted voice "if you think that rubbing shoulders with me is going to work, it’s not" I didn’t even look at her, or acknowledge what she had said.
Then after I got my drink, I turned to her, and said "hey, look, I know you’re a hot woman and all, but could you please not try to take up so much room at the bar next time"
She looked at me like "did you just say what i think you said".
After I got the look, I said "what? Just because I didn’t buy you a drink like the other 5 guys did, it doesnt make me a jerk ya know"
Her mouth opened a little wider and she smiled at me, in a kindof "i’m giving in" kinda way and asked what my name was. Instead, I said "whats your name and I might tell you mine"
She gave me her name, and she said "now tell me yours", so I refused by saying "for now, my name is bob" before I said anything else, she said something like "haaa haaa, real funny, really, come on, tell me your REAL name this time"
I said to her "well, ok, if you buy me a drink after I finish this one, I’ll tell you my name"
Once again she looked at me with shock and said "how come you are so up yourself" I said "how come you are still talking to me?"
After this, I can’t really remember in full details exact word for word, but i’ll do my best.
She paused after I said that...kinda smiled and looked away shyly before saying "because you’re different" I replied by saying "I have 4 arms, a torso, chest, head, neck, legs, and everything in between, so what is so different" she laughed and said something about me not trying to suck up to her by buying her drinks and paying her compliments.
So after this, we ended up going and finding a table together, then I didn’t even notice that I had finished my drink, and she said "I’ll go buy you your drink now" ...I looked at my drink and saw I didn’t have any left, hehe, would you look at that :p
She got up told me to stay put, and not to move anywhere, so I replied asking what would happen if I didn’t stay, would she cuff me up.
She laughed at me, smiled and winked, before strutting off to the bar.
Once again, she had a few guys come up to her to try and chat her up while she was buying the drink, but she turned and pointed towards me, I of course smiled and gave a little wave to the guys....I got in first :p
I should also say that she wasnt very drunk at the time, or didn’t appear to be. So she was still really with it and in control of herself.
Before she came back to the table, 2 girls came over to me both which were probably about 5-6’s (not my type), and one asked me if I could buy them a drink because she ran out of money, she had her arm on my shoulder while her friend stood aside, and she was pretty much trying to rough me up to buy her a drink so she could bugger off out of there.
I said that if she went over to (one of those 5 guys was sitting nearby) she might get a drink, and maybe some more...she asked me why I wouldnt buy her a drink, and I said that I would if she hadnt done it to the other 2 guys beforehand (that was a guess), and she said "so you’ve been watching me eh?" I said "no" and looked over at where the 10 was who was buying my drink, and she was about 2 metres away holding hers and my drink.
She then said "sorry ladies, he’s mine" and then a bit of a bitch fest thing came on....the 10 was 27years old and handled things alot better than the other two girls who I would say were probably my own age of 18. And the 27year old handled it pretty well, but these girls got all stuck up and started mouthing off crap, so I said "hey excuse me ladies, there are about 150 lonely single men in this place looking for women, i’m one of the other 200 who have already found one, go away, and stop harassing us or I’ll go get security"
They buggered off real quick mouthing off some profanities.
This obviously had impressed the 27 year old, and she said I handled that really well, I actually impressed myself in the situation as I’d never really done anything like that before.
She then started asking me who they were, and she kept asking me who they were in our conversation as if she thought that I had previous experiences with them at all, so I guess that she was just a wee bit jealous.
The end of the night went well, I got her number and email address and stuff, but unfortunately she moved up the coast to brisbane, and we still keep in touch, she wants to come down for a "special visit" in her holidays off work, so i’m looking forward to that, however, I’m not sticking on to her.
I like to think of her as a good friend now.
So the whole point of that story of my experience was that not all guys are jerks, the ones who are jerks are the ones who are only cocky, the ones who are goofy dorks (to some) are the ones that are only funny, and the ones who are wusses are the NICE guys who suck up to women, give them everything they want and generally let women walk all over them.
So by a NICE guy, all women really mean that they want a polite, well mannered guy who is funny, a leader, and not an arsehole.
There arent man of us guys out there that know the difference unfortunately, and I can say that at one stage, I was a NICE guy, and I never was attractive, at another stage, I was an arsehole, and was treated as one, then I tried to be funny, but came across as a dork, and a "goof".
So I mixed all the good parts together and it works a charm.
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Posted by:
anzacbub
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Date:
Jul 17, 2007
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Well, I think alot of "NICE" guys tend to really just be creepy nasty insecure people, especially when it comes to jealousy over women, and I will admit, that I WAS one of those "NICE" guys who was creepy nasty and insecure...now i'm just plain nasty :p.
Why do so many of the NICE guys who lose out, whinge because the woman they fell in love with ran off with some "jerk"?
Well, that woman is obviously sick of the barrage of compliments and gifts coming from the nice guys...it's so damn obvious.
I mean...why keep trying something that doesnt work, when you can do something different?
Something like what that jerk was doing. He wasnt treating her badly at all (unless he physically assaults her and abuses her in that way, which is illegal anyway), he was having FUN, you know...remember when you were a little kid and you used to always tease the girl you like....thats exactly the same thing, except with adults.
Women are sick of predictable boring wussy suckups who simply don't get it, and yes, I didn't GET IT at one point aswell..hell I still don't get it...nobody will ever understand women :p Even if they seem to understand.
And the women who want a nice guy, well, they are used to being around the so called JERKS. But unfortunately, when a woman like prittideth here who is quite attractive and appealing to most needy desperate NICE guys, when she asks about where the nice boys are...they translate that into their heads as "a guy who buys gifts all the time, a guy who pays for every dinner and doesnt let the woman pay, a guy who never says a negative comment to a woman even if it is a joking comment" and there is more there but you get the picture right?
THAT is not a NICE guy. A nice guy, is an attractive guy, someone who is a MAN, not a kid, not a boy, not a moron, idiot, a real jerk, etc etc
A MAN knows how to treat a woman with respect, he knows how to be a gentleman, he knows how to be courteous, but he also know how to be mysterious and unpredictable, he knows how to have fun with a woman, he's not afraid of every single little thing he does on a date, he is just there for fun, he's not there to proove anything to anybody, if anything, he's wanting the date to proove herself to him, even if she is a super model with a great personality.
THAT's a nice guy, plus there is so much more to a real nice guy to what you think.
You've just gotta try and be realistic about woman, and not let your mind be clouded by your wishes and desires.
What I mean is, when you sit there thinking about how your date went, you're sitting there at home analyzing every little thing that happened on that date, inside, you felt that the date was uncomfortable, but you had a good conversation about cats...well...the realistic thing is that the date was uncomfortable and you were talking about cats....that says that you werent comfortable with one another, and because of that, you were so bored that you had to talk about cats.
Then you're picking apart every word she said or every time she smiled and laughed.
Sorry fellow men, but just because shes smiling and laughing, it doesnt necessarily mean she's enjoying herself...she probably doesnt want you to feel bad, so take your hand off your ... and wake up to yourself.
If it's uncomfortable, you're talking about cats and she was smiled ONCE and laughed ONCE it doesnt mean she in in love with you.
BUH! now it's late and i've been writing this with numb hands which are kindof a purple and white colour right now (eek!) so I better get off to bed and warm up with my electric blanket.
As for anyone viewing my profile, please don't judge me by what it says, the writing in that profile is from a while ago, and for some reason, I cannot edit my profiles as I get a page error, and there is no support email or anything so I can't contact support to fix the problem.
I hope some people benefit from what i'm writing, I only feel the desire to write it because I used to be a wussy needy obsessive little creep :p And I don't think it's fair for me now, to put down those types of people, but instead, give them a little more info on what they're doing wrong and tell them what to do to do things right.
Thanks.
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